Family Constellations Workshops
A Workshop Series on Long Island, 2017
In this series, we explore the fundamentals of theory and practice of Family Constellations — a groundbreaking approach to well-being in its broadest sense. Family Constellations is an essential life perspective and process that opens the heart and mind to new possibility. Originally assembled by Bert Hellinger, the work shows us how to create the space necessary for change to take root in the personal, family, or professional sphere.
Whether people wish to use the work personally or professionally, participants will learn the how and why of Family Constellations as they look at their own lives and those of others. Every weekend incorporates individual Constellations and a lecture on the topic. Exercises and other work are included where appropriate.
Among our areas of exploration:
- Our entanglements in current and past personal and professional relationships and how to untie those (k)nots so something new can happen
- Techniques for releasing resentment, pain, and grief
- Ways to step out of seemingly intractable patterns
- Resonance with life-force
- The power of ancestral imagery
- How to incorporate this approach into individual healing practices
Each weekend's theme will be covered in a morning lecture, and explored through ex-periential activities and Constellations.
Brief topic outlines:
The desire to belong is the driving force behind most action, good or bad. It begins when we are born and have no way to survive but to belong to our keepers, no matter the cost. Often, this feeling endures into adulthood, causing us to blindly reach for what does not serve life.
Hellinger's observations about order as it pertains to families, communities, organizations and other groups has implications across multiple dimensions. Disorder has many forms, including: when a child takes care of a parent ... a CEO disregards the founder ... victims of war are forgotten ... aborted children are not accounted for ... the youngest inherits ... perpetrators are banished.
BALANCE OF GIVE AND TAKE>
A ledger is kept by the "soul" as life is a fluid movement of offering and receiving. When this is out of balance -- one gives too much or takes too much -- the movement stops its natural flow and struggles to find other ways to continue. "Other ways" are often laden with anger, lethargy, or disappointment, creating more and more imbalance and stasis.
THE PATH OF THE COUPLE>
The cross-currents of the fundamental observations (above) as they affect and are reflected in the couple at various life stages. How can a couple survive its own dishonesty? Is it right to stay together for the children? The childless couple. When one partner is ill. When one partner is more successful. The fatherless man; the motherless woman. Abortion. Same-sex couples.
PARENTS AND CHILDREN>
How the fundamental observations are carried forward. What do children owe their parents? What do parents owe their children? When a child is ill. When a parent dies young. Surviving the loss of a child. Adoption. Stepfamilies. Caring for Elderly parents.
MONEY AND SELF-CARE>
What is the meaning of money in our system and what are the systemic influences on self-care? Are we trapped in our history? The ways of inheritance and legacy. Is success a right? How to become free of atonement and shame.
MEANING AS A WAY OF LIFE>
A weekend for therapists and healers, artists, writers, teachers, and anyone who believes deeply in their contribution — even at times sacrifice themselves to it. Making meaning and living through it.
ORGANISMS AND ORGANIZATIONS>
Looking at how organizational structures work and they hold us up or pin us down. What do so-called entrepreneurs really want? Why does your employer undervalue your service? Why do you hang on when there is no evidence that change will occur? What is the ebb and flow of your small business and how can it move forward? Distinguishing between our place in the family and our place in the world.
This workshop series is open to all and flexible as far as time commitment (Saturday and/or Sunday). The two-day stay offers more of a retreat feel, cohesive and contemplative. There will still be a teaching component every weekend (with a theme). The Constellations people want to have done, however, are always completely open.
January 14 & 15 — Belonging
February 11 & 12 — The Orders
March 18 & 19 — Balance of Give and Take
April 22 & 23 — The Path of the Couple
May 20 & 21 — Parents and Children
June 3 & 4 — Money and Self-Care
July 15 & 16 — Meaning as a Way of Life
August 26 & 27 — Organisms and Organizations
WHERE: Our Lady of Grace, 29 Shelter Rock Road, Manhasset, NY 11030
WHEN: Saturdays and Sundays, 9:30am-4:30pm each day
WORKSHOP SERIES COST: $2,800 for complete series with Certificate of Completion
WEEKEND WORKSHOP FEE: $350/weekend
ONE-DAY WORKSHOP FEE: $175/day
Accommodations at the beautiful Our Lady of Grace Retreat are available for $40/night. Sign up early to secure accommodations. Please contact Karen Passalacqua at Kapassamon@aol.com. for details.
For complete course: One missed weekend may be made up via notes and discussion session.